Some people don’t see the point in wearing a promise or purity ring. Many claim that they do not work.
I totally agree.
Promise/Purity rings don’t work. They don’t do anything. They are not a magical token that ensures you stay a virgin until you are married. They don’t wish away temptations or desires you shouldn’t pursue. If someone wears a promise/purity ring and strays from his or her commitment, it has nothing to do with the ring.
My parents gave me a promise ring on my 13th birthday to encourage me to stay pure until marriage. My accepting it was me promising to keep myself physically, emotionally, and mentally pure so I could honor my God, my parents, and my future husband. I didn’t fully understand what that meant at the time but am glad they had the wisdom to instill something so powerful and important in me at a young age. I knew early on all what my parents expected and hoped for me. I also understood that my parents had made mistakes and wanted my siblings and I to do better.
I am 20 years old now and I know that to stay committed to the promise I made when accepting this ring, I have to choose to commit to it myself every single day. My parents cannot make me stay pure until marriage any more than they can reserve me a place in Heaven. (Thankfully, they don’t have to 🙂 )
As a family, we have decided to trade worldly relationships driven by physical attraction and meaningless fun for God-honoring relationships with a purpose. Whether that purpose be friendship or marriage, I have the support and guidance of my parents to help me maneuver the crazy world of love.
I am blessed my parents entrusted me with such a responsibility, raising the bar society sets for me. My prayer is that I continue to commit myself to the purpose of this ring and can pass on a legacy of purity to my children and future generations.